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Motivational post!

Updated: Jun 9


I honestly can't believe we are in the last weeks of Jan already. Gosh. I am still writing the date with the 19 at the end...

I guess it is better like this though, we are getting a tiny bit closer to the spring. I had enough of winter. It has been bloody windy lately and I my nose won't stop running even if I don't have cold (yet).

I am so pale you can see right through my skin and this yellowish-greenish colour is really not flattering. I tried to use a tanning lotion, a gradual one to start with, but I gave up after a week. I already have too many steps in my skin care routine I can't possibly add another one.

Also, I am still torn between doing it in the evening after the shower, like the whole world would do, but then I am afraid to stain the bedding. And if I don't put my Midnight Recovery Kiehl's oil and Ultra facial cream as soon I put my feet out of the shower my skin is so dry that will start peeling off after a minute. Fun times.

In the morning I physically don't have the time to let it dry properly before applying my make up. Being a woman is such a struggle sometimes.

Speaking of which,I am avoiding skinny jeans since Christmas and not in order to refresh my outfit options...I literally don't fit any of them. In my new year resolutions I mentioned that I wanted to keep being consistent with my working out schedule. It is actually so difficult to go back to my healthy lifestyle after all the indulgence of the holiday season...

I had a pretty challenging period since November with the flat move and after that the peak season in the shop ( first Christmas' madness, then sales' madness, now stocktake's madness) and I ended up doing less of the things I know will balance out the stress due to some laziness and procrastination, which are working out, writing and cleaning. The classic: "I am tired today, I will do it tomorrow."

It's ok, we are human beings. Whatever the goal is, sometimes we find obstacles on the path and that affects our journey.

Now that I am finally getting back on track, I wanted to share with you some of my tips to stay motivated or how to find your motivation back after a moment of weakness.


- Take a break:

Sometimes you just need some time. A few days for yourself when you don't have to think about anything that it not what to watch on Netflix. Just do it. Book a holiday if you can, or a weekend at the spa. Don't worry about the money: it is well spend to recharge.

-Thing about why you started in the first place:

It is not just about the jeans, is because I want to feel good in my own skin. Also, it makes me feel stronger, more confident and healthier overall. I can feel my posture improving after a few weeks of regular stretching and work out, and my immune system too. The best part though, is that working out helps me to relax and wash away anxiety and stress not only from my body, but also from my mind which is the most important thing for me.

-Don't be too hard on yourself:

Feeling guilty won't help you, it will only put more pressure over your shoulders. It is normal to have lack of motivation every now and then. But don't think you are a failure or that there is something wrong with you. Nobody's perfect! Every day is a new start and every day we have got the chance to do better.

-Don't procrastinate and set boundaries:

On the other hand, once you decide it is time to go back to your healthy habits or to start a new one, don't systematically skip what you would like to do. In my case, I just start with something easy and quick: 10 minutes workout. It doesn't have to be 1 hour of running in the cold. Just do something and it will break the circle of " I will do it tomorrow/later" that will lead once again to nothing.

Another thing that helps me a lot is setting boundaries. For example, I know that when I am leaving the shop at 18:30 I will be too tired and hungry to work out so I set the rule that every time I start my shift at 11:30, I will wake up early in order to have the time and the energy to train myself a bit. In the weekend if I want to have a lay in the morning, I will set a time in the afternoon for my work out and put my alarm so I can plan my day around it without sacrifice my relax too much.

-Set a realistic goal and take your time:

It is ok to be ambitious, but sometimes having too high expectations leads to disappointment and frustration. I prefer to start with an achievable goal and then once reached it, try for a better result. Baby steps.

-Ask for help:

There is no shame in it. If you know a fit friend or someone that will like to be in better shape include that person in your plans. My boyfriend helped me a lot in my journey towards a better body/mind. I am a proud person and I rarely ask for support, but I found out that it is actually a childish behaviour. People do care about you and they can help most of the time. It could be practical help or just a few kind words or a piece of advice. It is very important to know that you are not alone!

-Be positive and surround yourself of positive people:

The more you think about failure, the more you are attracting negative things towards you. It is a fact. The more you fill your mind with positive thoughts, the more you are attracting good things towards you. I met so many talented people in the past that have a defensive and negative attitude towards change and life in general and they are toxic. They just bring you down. It is not selfish to avoid this kind of people. Think about yourself first: find a positive partner and positive friends. The difference in your life will be massive!

-Don't compare yourself to others and be mindful of social media:

That's the biggest mistake we could do. Everyone has a different body, mind, story, situation etc...if you find somebody that inspire you to do better, that's great, it's still part of motivation. But don't obsess with being like that model of that super fit friend or that blogger. I like Instagram. But i won't spend more than half an hour/40 minutes a day on it. People just post their better side, their success and the best part of their life but most of the time they won't show what's real. So take it for what it is: a pass time, something fun that can take 10% of your time but nothing more.

-Set one priority:

I feel like this is the crucial point. Since I know my boyfriend (5 years now...) he never, ever skipped a workout. Never. He always says: "it is sacred for me". It comes first in his busy life. He can postpone it, he can do less if he feels ill but he will always do it because it is the number one priority. At the beginning thought he was a bit freak but now I really respect that and I actually admire his sense of duty. He is a very reliable person and it taught me to be more consistent. So if you have multiple things to do during the day, just take a minute to think about what it is more important for you and then do that thing first. The rest can wait.

-Plan ahead:

I am not saying to be a control freak, but it is actually very helpful to plan your week in advance. Leaving everything to chance leads to disorganisation and therefore to miss things. On the other hand, if you know more or less what you are about to do in the next few days and something comes up at the last minute you will be able to reschedule what needs doing so that you can still achieve your goal.

Preparation is key. Same for your meals: think what you are going to eat in advance. This includes doing a shopping list planning what your meals will be, doing your grocery shopping and meal prep instead of buying pre-made food (which usually contains far more fats and salts and it also costs more) so that you can control your calories intake. And if you have a cheat meal,it's fine! It is part of enjoying life...but if don't keep track of these details on a weekly basis, chances are you will ended up over eating and not working out.


These lovely cards I just found in the net are very helpful to increase your productivity level and your motivation. LSW Mind Cards are designed to help you to become more mindful of your thoughts and feelings and give you the tools needed to take back control of your happiness, focus on the present and spread positivity throughout your life.

How to use:

Each day select a card at random and take the action stated on the card. Building the habit of making positive choices each day will help you lead a more fulfilling and happier life.





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