How to motivate yourself to achieve your goals when you think you can't

That's what motivated me to get my ass to work out today

I honestly can't believe we are in the last weeks of Jan already. Gosh. I am still writing "2019" at the end of the date.

I guess it is better like this though, we are getting a tiny bit closer to the spring. I had enough of winter.

Speaking of which, I have been avoiding my skinny jeans since Christmas and not to refresh my outfit options...I literally don't fit any of them. In my new year resolutions, I mentioned that I wanted to keep being consistent with my working out schedule. It is actually so difficult to go back to my healthy lifestyle after all the indulgence of the holiday season...

I had a pretty challenging period since November with the flat move, the peak season at work (first Christmas' madness, then sales' madness, now stocktake madness) and I ended up doing less of the things I know will balance out the stress due to laziness and procrastination, which are working out, writing and cleaning. The classic: "I am tired today, I will do it tomorrow."

It's ok, we are human beings. Whatever your goal is, sometimes we are in a bad mood or we find obstacles on the path.

Now that I am finally getting back on track, I wanted to share with you some of my tips to stay motivated or how to find your motivation back when you think you can't.

-Take a break:

Sometimes you just need more time. A few days for yourself when you don't have to think about anything that it is not what to watch on Netflix. Just do it. Book a holiday if you can, or a weekend at the spa. Don't worry about the money: it is well spent to recharge.

-Think about why you started in the first place:

It is not just about fitting in the jeans, it is because I want to feel good in my own skin. Also, it makes me feel stronger, more confident and healthier overall. I can feel my posture improving after a few weeks of regular stretching and work out, and my immune system too. The best part though is that working out helps me to relax and wash away anxiety and stress not only from my body but also from my mind, which is the most important thing for me.

-Don't be too hard on yourself:

Feeling guilty won't help you, it will only put more pressure over your shoulders.

It is normal to experience lack of motivation now and then. But don't think you are a failure or that there is something wrong with you. Nobody's perfect! Every day is a new start and every day we have got the chance to do better than the bday before.

-Don't procrastinate and set boundaries:

On the other hand, once you decide it is time to go back to your healthy habits or to start a new one, don't systematically skip what you would like to do.

My self-starter motto is: DO IT NOW!

In my case, I just start with something easy and quick: 10 minutes workout. It doesn't have to be running for 1 hour at 7 am while raining.

Just do something and it will break the circle of " I will do it tomorrow/later" that will lead once again to nothing.

Another thing that helps me a lot is setting boundaries. For example, I know that when I am leaving the shop at 18:30 I will be too tired and hungry to work out so I set the rule that every time I start my shift at 11:30, I will wake up early to have the time and the energy to work out for 20 minutes.

If I want to have a lay in the morning during my days off, I will set my alarm for a specific time in the afternoon to work out so I can plan my day around it without sacrificing my relaxation time.

-Set a realistic goal and take your time:

It is ok to be ambitious, but having unrealistically high expectations leads to disappointment and frustration. I prefer to start with an achievable goal and then once I have reached it, I'd try for a better result. Baby steps.

-Ask for help:

There is no shame in it. If you have a fit friend or someone that will like to be in better shape include that person in your plans. My boyfriend helped me a lot in my journey towards a better body/mind.

I am a proud person and I rarely ask for support, but I found out that it is actually a childish behaviour. People do care about you and they can help most of the time. It could be practical help or just a few kind words or a piece of advice. It is very important to know that you are not alone!

-Be positive and surround yourself with positive people:

The more you think about failure, the more you are attracting negative things towards you. It is a fact. The more you fill your mind with positive thoughts, the more you are attracting good things towards you. I met so many talented people in the past that have a defensive and negative attitude towards change and life in general and they ended up being toxic.

They just bring you down. It is not selfish to avoid this kind of person. Think about yourself first: find a positive partner and positive friends. The difference in your life will be massive!

“If you think you are beaten, you are

If you think you dare not, you don't,

If you like to win, but you think you can't

It is almost certain you won't.

If you think you'll lose, you're lost

For out of the world we find,

Success begins with a fellow's will

It's all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are

You've got to think high to rise,

You've got to be sure of yourself before

You can ever win a prize.

Life's battles don't always go

To the stronger or faster man,

But soon or late the man who wins

Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!”

― Walter D. Wintle

-Don't compare yourself to others and be mindful of social media:

That's the biggest mistake we could make. Everyone has a different body, mind, story, situation etc...if you find somebody that inspires you to do better, that's great, it's still part of the motivation. But don't obsess with being like that model or that super-fit friend or that blogger. I like Instagram. But I won't spend more than half an hour/40 minutes a day scrolling down. Remember that people only post their better side, their success and the best part of their life but most of the time they won't show what's real. So take it for what it is: a pass time, something fun that should take 10% of your time.

-Set one priority:

I feel like this is the crucial point. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and he never skipped a workout. Never. He always says: "it is sacred for me".

It comes first in his busy life. He can postpone it, he can do less if he feels ill but he will always do it because it is his number one priority.

At the beginning of our relationship, I thought he was crazy, but now I really respect that and I actually admire his sense of duty. He is a very reliable person and it taught me to be more consistent. So if you have multiple things to do during the day, just take a minute to reflect on what is more important for you and then do that thing first. The rest can wait.

-Plan ahead:

I am not saying to be a control freak, but it is actually very helpful to plan your week.

Leaving everything to chances leads to disorganisation and therefore to miss things. On the other hand, if you know more or less what you have to do in the next few days and something comes up at the last minute you will be able to reschedule what needs doing so that you can still achieve your goals.

Preparation is key. Same for your meals: schedule what you are going to eat in advance. This includes writing down a shopping list planning what your meals will be, doing your grocery shopping and meal prep instead of buying pre-made food (which usually contains far more fats, salts and sugars compared to homemade food and it also costs more) so that you can control your calories intake. And if you have a cheat meal, it's fine! It is part of enjoying life...but if you don't keep track of these details weekly, chances are you will end up overeating and not working out.


These lovely cards I just found on the net are very helpful to increase your productivity level and your motivation. LSW Mind Cards are designed to help you to become more mindful of your thoughts and feelings and give you the tools needed to take back control of your happiness, focus on the present and spread positivity throughout your life.

How to use:

Each day select a card at random and take the action stated on the card. Building the habit of making positive choices each day will help you lead a more fulfilling and happier life.

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