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What self care really means

Ciao, welcome back to my blog, today I am sharing with you my personal point of view about self care.

Nowadays it is a rather common word we use to justify all sorts of things, from impulse purchases, to indulgent lifestyle habits and so on.

Everyone is different and perceive the world in its unique way but I think that sometimes we got carried away with what we "think" is self care.

One of the reasons is that we are polluted every day with advertisements and misconceptions about wellbeing.

"You deserve it", "Treat yourself", "Spoil yourself" "Love yourself" are slogans of the sort that we can find pretty much everywhere, from shops, social media, advertisement and Tv programs.

But what does it really mean? How can we actually take care of ourself?

I decided to list first what doesn't mean to me personally in order to make clarity.

What is not self care to me:

Shopping every weekend


Going to the nail saloon/hairdresser every week


Eating whatever I want after a bad day


Going out to the pub every Friday and get drunk


Having a perfect, Instagram worthy home


Often we got sold this misleading message that self care is having a face mask and a hot bath every week (if not everyday) and that we are allowed to buy, eat, drink whatever we want to make us happy and satisfied.

Well, I think this is why the majority of the people are frustrated and sad.

We are totally missing the point.

Obviously those things make us feel better or good in that particular moment but the gratification expires in an instant.

There is nothing wrong in buying something we desire, eating a delicious meal, meeting for a drink with a friend or having a massage.

Those things are lovely.

But they are not all we need to effectively take care of ourselves, despite what the society might want us to believe.

What taking good care of myself actually means to me:

"Mens sana in corpore sano": working out consistently and eating healthy most days.


Recognise the signs that tell me I am too stressed out/tired and slow down or take a break as a result.


Keep both my physical and mental space decluttered and clean in order to have a serene place to live in and peace of mind.


Control of my financial situation, save money every month and being independent so that I am taking care of my future self and I don't have to rely on somebody else to do so in case my relationship won't work in the long term.


Nurture my relationship with my boyfriend spending enough time together. Sometimes that means making some sacrifices in terms of work choices but it is totally worth it.


Stay in contact with the important people of my life that live far away from me.


Develop a healthy and uplifting passion/hobby such as writing, reading, drawing...instead of spending all my free time scrolling on social media/entertainment.


Don't always say yes if I want to say no and don't always accommodate others.


Don't mind what other people think of me.


Hanging out with few positive people that add value to my life while avoiding toxic relationships.


Take time to meditate/think/plan ahead to avoid anxiety and impulse decisions.


Learn new things and push myself out of my comfort zone from time to time.


Practice empathy and acts of kindness towards the others more often as well as to myself (such as forgiving myself for past mistakes, bad behaviour and terrible decisions I have taken previously).

Thank you so much reading my article today.

What self care means to you?

I would love to know!

Have a great start of the week all!